- What is nVC?
Nonviolent communication (NVC) is an approach and a way of living that aims to bring any human being closer to himself and to others around him/her/them.
Through offering a set of tools for listening to our deepest needs and feelings, NVC gives us an opportunity to have effective communication with people around us, and helps us solve conflicts in a compassionate and connecting way. In addition, NVC can be used for designing life-supporting communities and systems, in government, business, schools, and more.
Above all, it serves as a compass for creating a life that aligns with our deepest values, moment to moment.
NVC was founded and developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, an American psychologist, and has been widely spread all over the world.
Marshall Rosenberg developed the nonviolent communication (NVC) process in the 1960s. Rosenberg believed that most conflicts between individuals or groups arise from unclear communication of their needs.
When people use language that provokes fear, shame or guilt in a conflict situation, the other person’s attention is diverted. “Violent” language prevents people from seeing their feelings, needs and requests clearly.
The conflict intensifies because that “violent part” causes counter-violence.
Why Giraffe and Jackal?
NVC uses two animals as symbols. The giraffe is the land animal with the biggest heart and stands for compassionate communication. The second animal is the jackal, representing competition. Jackal language is about judging, criticising, analysing, moralising and accusing. When we feel unfairly treated, accused or when we want to impose our wishes, we tend to use the language of the jackal. Jackal language is separating. Giraffe language is connecting.